It’s almost everything. The food matters, obviously, but attitude is the rest.
I say it over and over – you must get your mind right.
Our actions will go the directions of our thoughts. If you sit around fantasizing about food then you will eventually cave and go off the rails.
You cannot continue to look at carbs/sugar as something that is good for you. If you are overweight, obese, insulin resistant, PCOS, type 2 diabetic and/or have metabolic syndrome (i.e. most of the above) then carbs/sugar have no place in your life.
They never will, at least not in a healthy capacity.
I see comments and I get questions from people who think they are going to get to their goal with Keto and then “add carbs back in gradually.” In my experience, that’s a recipe for disaster.
When I talk about how easily we can deceive ourselves, that is what I am talking about. If you are an addict, and chances are, if you are so far gone that you are obese, diabetic, and/or insulin resistant, you are an addict and you will never be a “normal” carb eater. It just won’t happen. You may exhibit control for a short period of time, but it won’t be long until you spiral back to where you started.
I also see comments along the lines of, “I keep trying to do this woe and I keep failing.” You are not failing, you are choosing to eat what you know you shouldn’t. Own your actions an change your language.
Stop choosing wrong. I know, it is easy to say. But that is it; that is what you need to do. You need to stop.
I promise you can stop. I did, and my behavior was ridiculously dysfunctional when it came to food. It was not uncommon for me to eat almost an entire cheesecake. By myself. At midnight. By flashlight, so I didn’t wake anyone up.
That’s not normal.
But I stopped.
How do you stop? First you recognize that you have an addiction and that you won’t fix it. You won’t be able to sustain moderation or will power eating carbs/sugar for a lifetime. You will have short windows of control and the rest of the time you will be the addict you are.
You must intentionally work on changing your thoughts so you can change your language. Look for quotes that inspire you, motivate you and spur you to action. Read the stories of others and believe that if they can do it, you can do it. Quit giving food so much power over you. It is only food; it is not the boss of you. You are stronger than bagels and donuts. They don’t rule you, you rule you. Let your dreams and goals drive you, not the temporary satisfaction of a few bites of what is literally poison to your body.
If you want long term success, meaning you want to maintain a healthy body weight and you want to stay off meds and out of your doctor’s office, you need to get your mind right and DECIDE that this is your new way of life.
Embrace all the amazing and delicious food that you CAN eat and let go of the fantasy of indulging in foods that do you no favors, foods that make you sick, fatigued, diseased, and aged. Yes, carbs and sugar AGE you. Have you noticed the before and after pictures that people share that besides the weight loss the most striking thing to me is how much YOUNGER everyone looks.
So your choices are:
Eat sugary and starchy carbs to enjoy a very temporary satisfaction and feel guilt, possibly stomach pains, cravings, being kicked out of ketosis, feeling fatigued and needing to start over.
Eat yummy, fatty goodness and experience weight loss, increased energy, clarity of mind, improved skin texture, healthy blood sugar, healthy blood pressure, reversal of T2D, healing your PCOS, improved cholesterol, smaller clothing, no seatbelt extenders on airplanes, tying your shoes without losing your breath, walk to the mailbox without getting winded, sleep better, revel in the compliments people give you when they notice your progress and how awesome you look, and in general feeling and looking better than you ever have your whole life.
The choice is yours.