My Keto journey has been very interesting. At first not a lot of people paid attention to what I was doing. It wasn’t until they saw real results, that is the result of me going from obese to not fat. The last 25 pounds made all the difference in their reactions. They got excited and all the sudden wanted my advice. I was getting texts and FB messages every day for a couple of weeks after sharing my story online.
I am more than happy to share what I am doing, how I have done it and what I have learned along the way because I want my friends to reach their goals and feel the absolute freedom that I feel. Although I played around with low carb alternate desserts (such as Atkins bars and shakes), I never “cheated” – in other words, I never took even a crumb or morsel of bread, pizza, potatoes, rice, cake, cookies, etc. Not once. I never ate one of my kid’s French fries or took a bite of their blizzard from DQ. Not even once. I was, and still am, committed to this way of life. I don’t ever want to be in bondage to carbs and sugar again, so I make the right choice for me and that is not to poke the bear with a tease here and there. That just doesn’t work for me.
My friends are having some success. They feel better already, they have lost a little weight, but I can tell, not all of them are fully on board. They aren’t in that place where it is do or die, life or death. I was. I was 260 pounds and afraid I would die early. I was 260 pounds and couldn’t chase a ball around with my sons. I was 260 pounds and Type 2 Diabetic. I was miserable, numb, yet simultaneously in great physical and mental pain. I hated the way I looked. I hated clothes shopping and needing to buy 2X size tops in the plus size department and size 20W jeans. I was dying a slow death and I needed to stop it.
It pains me to see my friends make decisions that I know in my heart of hearts that are only making things harder for them. I try to encourage them, but honestly, I think sometimes I make them angry when I share that I don’t cheat with the food. I feel like sometimes they just want me to shut up, because they take what I’m saying as some sort of judgment on them. It’s not. It’s what I know works. It’s how I reached my goals, and how I continue to reach them.
Here are some things I would love to tell them:
- You can have total control over your weight and how you look
- Eating Keto does not have to be hard
- You will love your life so much more when you feel accomplished
You just have to believe you can and you need to on purpose make the right choices. I understand struggle, I still struggle and battle, but ultimately I make the hard choices and stay on the path.
We make it hard by wanting to hold on to the bad for us food. We crowd our brain with old tapes and food fantasies and it blocks us from seeing the truth. The truth is that no matter what restaurant you go to there are keto choices.
I know it might seem arrogant or prideful, but seriously sometimes I am so happy with what I have done that I feel my face will crack from smiling. After being so MISERABLE and generally unhappy and having to fake that life was okay, for so long, I am just beside myself with my newfound energy and my new skin. I want my friends to feel that way too!
Those of us who have reached some level of success with this way of life, just need to keep continuing to be an example to our loved ones. We can’t do it for them, we can’t make them do it, we can’t shame them in to doing it – we can only love them and encourage them.
Everybody’s journey is there own. Sometimes that journey takes you through some dark places. But that’s okay, because some of use have been there before and we know how to get out.